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My 3rd novel wasn’t meant to be a sequel to the 2nd novel in the first place. Then something happened. Characters began to beg to be included in the story. Thus, a sequel was born.

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Letting Go, Saying No

Submitted by on January 29, 2010 – 14:10One Comment

“Hi. I’m sorry to say that I can’t help you with this next project. Pretty busy with work lately. Perhaps you can find another copywriter?”

“Hey, my schedule is kinda tight this week. Unless the deadline is next weekend, I might have to let go of this project. Do you have any other copywriters who can work on this project?”

“I’ve got quite a bit to complete this week, do you think you can find another copywriter to do the translation? Awfully sorry about this.”

“I’m sorry I can’t come in for a meeting tomorrow, I’ve got something else up-lined. Perhaps next week?”

The waves of change has finally arrived sweeping across almost half of my freelance clients as I humbly told them that my schedule is power-packed and I could barely get enough sleep to stay awake to write. Since I resigned last month, God has been good to bless me with writing projects that would be enough to feed me for this entire month. It’s been great, exciting and full of thrills – exactly what I wanted upon resignation. But it’s slowly taking a toll on me as I handle more than 10 major writing tasks per week. I realised I had to let go. Failing to do so may cost me my health and mental exhaustion.

Letting go is not hard, saying NO to others is much tougher. I hate to know that someone out there counted on me for something but I had to let them down without trying at the first place. The premium question for this week: Do you give your best to pleased and risk missing deadlines OR do you let go and let others take control? Today, I chose not to be greedy, I chose the latter. With that comes the consequences of losing current clients, potential clients and future money-making writing tasks but there’s gotta be consequences for every decision we make. I’ll just have to bear with it for now.

How easy is it for you to say NO to others? Would you be able to reject something that others would entrust you with? Do you hold on for the sake of yourself or for the sake of others? Or would you rather risk hurting yourself just so that others can continue sailing smoothly? My life hasn’t been about me. My friends used to say that I live for others rather than myself because others always come first. They would call me in times of need knowing that I would never say NO to them. When they need someone to keep them company to some boring seminars, I have been the one who went just because I couldn’t say NO; rather I don’t know how to say NO to others. However, this year marks a change in me.

Earlier this year, I rejected my best friend’s invitation to a career seminar because I thought I wouldn’t enjoy myself. I would have gone (like many years before) just to make her smile, but I didn’t. That itself means a lot to me because I knew, this year, the focus is on me. I’m drawing all the attention to myself so that I could be who I wanted to be inside. It’s selfish, yes. Sometimes we just have to be selfish first before we generously share with others a part of our lives.

Learn how to let go of things which are taking control of your life; things that overwhelm your entire being and make you wonder if you have lost yourself to the shadow of your actions. Learn how to say NO when you have to in order to protect yourself first, before you can protect others. Learn how to let go and say no when you need to be just you. It’s not easy, but you will be able to see the difference once you start letting go and learn how to say NO to things that matter less in your life.

Originally written by Gina Yap Lai Yoong © 2010

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