Comments on: Not Because You Should; Because You Really Want To

By: Cmate

Cmate — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 11:58:42 +0000

Surely true love can sustain THAT long.. or at least mine did. I still get butterflies even though we are no longer together now. It’s love.

By: flo

flo — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 15:34:50 +0000

and so how do you measure love? by the butterfly feelings in your stomach and cloud-9 dreamy feeling ALL the time? Surely no one can sustain THAT long…

By: Cmate

Cmate — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 04:28:50 +0000

A case study sounds good… when I have the time. Anyway, what I was trying to say is when you love someone out of habits and routines, as in you are so used to being together that love doesn’t come but you are together anyway. Some people realised that love no longer exist and move on, but many decides to do nothing about it.

By: flo

flo — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 04:20:34 +0000

can you please elaborate? I dont quite understand what is meant by ‘routine’. Perhaps case study would come in useful in explaining? Thanks

By: Cmate

Cmate — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 10:11:08 +0000

“Remember the time when you suddenly realised you no longer love that someone anymore?”

Some people love because it’s a routine; and not real love.

By: flo

flo — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 15:00:33 +0000

“Remember the time when you suddenly realised you no longer love that someone anymore?”

I personally dont think the example above is really suitable because once you are committed in a relationship (and i mean ONLY relationship), you dont get your way in or out only based on feelings per se because that’s when we see high divorce rates. When you have decided to be with someone, stick with it…unless it’s detrimental to you ie abuse or the person died. Otherwise, you work it out through the rough patches…including infidelity. Easier said than done.

For the other examples of the job, life paths, etc…yes i agree you shouldnt.