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Since When Did You Make Them Gods?

Submitted by on August 12, 2009 – 21:047 Comments

It’s intriguing that the people around us always claim that they know what is best for us when each and every one of us is struggling to understand who we are in life. It takes a lifetime to understand ourselves, to know our heart inside out, to comprehend the person we were created to be. And sometimes, in the process of self discovery, we may realise that what we want may not be what we need in the first place. Thus, how can other people tell us that they know what is best for us all the time? Isn’t it intriguing that another person can know us well enough to know what is best for themselves and you? Who made them gods?

We did. In our attempt to please others and keep them happy, we have given them the power to be gods. We have allowed them to direct our life simply by giving in to their restrictions on us. Just like that time you wanted to buy the tall sleek black stilettos at the mall and your boyfriend reprimand you because you will be taller than him in the pair, you give in because he might be right; have you paused a moment to think that he has no right against your wish to look taller and more beautiful? Or that time you wanted to quit your job and travel around the world but your parents stopped you because they think you should focus on your career instead; have you paused a moment to think what your life is about? Being at the top of the career game, or the freedom to travel and explore?

It’s easy to be trapped in this worldwide game where others have a hold of your wants, needs and actions. Everything you do, someone will have something to say. They will judge you, criticize your perceptions, comment on your action. They will not stop. And it gets worse when we give in day after day; letting them empower us in exchange of acceptance. Are they really accepting us for who we are in the first place? Do we want to give them the power to dictate how our life should be when we are the ones living it?

People can only take control of us when we give them the power to do so. Yes, you should listen to your best friend when he tells you not to commit suicide because of a broken relationship (now that’s really what’s best for you). But would you want to listen to a friend who tell you that getting married to discourage your boyfriend from having an affair with another woman is the only solution to your problem? If 99 people tell you the same thing and you don’t feel strongly about it, would you still give in and go ahead with their (I-Know-What’s-Best-For-You) suggestion?

Take control of your life. Don’t make the people around you gods because they are not. Ask and listen to their advice, but don’t let them make that decision for you. Talk and discuss about your perceptions, but don’t let their beliefs be yours. Remember, there is only one you and you are only answerable to yourself at the end of each day. Only you know what is best for yourself. Don’t let others tell you what to do or dictate your life. Your life is yours to live. So take control and do what is best for yourself. Only you know best!

Originally written by Gina Yap Lai Yoong © 2009

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